I figured it out. And am SOOO happy right now! I had a long talk with hubby tonight and we logically thought out the name. I told him my pros and cons and he agreed with me and even opened up about how he feels, which he hasn't done before now.
We did decide to change her first name (it has NOTHING to do with my uncle/aunt situation). But believe me, I am so happy with our new choice and I know without a shadow of doubt that it is the perfect choice for her. We told me parents tonight and they agreed with us. My mom even opened up a little and she's glad we changed it (for reasons not including my uncle/aunt). We aren't announcing the name until after she's born though. That is to everyone other than my parents and my blog friends!!
I can't stop smiling right now! You should check out my new ticker on the side!! :)))) (PS~ NO mention of the name on Facebook please!!)